PALLAVI

Pallavi is a friend of mine with whom i share a love -hate relationship...
her son suffers from thalassemia and i feel tremendous sympathy for her..
but its difficult for me to provide sympathy on a everyday basis....and so those days become difficult for both of us....
i know she likes me very much.(even though i ignore her many a times when she looks at me for sympathy), she comes to me with a huge smile the next day.
what i really hate about her is this need for constant attention and her need to talk about her life which is devoid of any joy..she feels she is a VICTIM...
i feel so helpless ....ive tried being indifferent, neglectful.....sulking..but she just doesnt get the message.
what do i do?

ME!

main apni favorite hoon!

eyes

Have you ever looked into the eyes of an infant and felt that you could jump in and go for a swim? They are so open and inviting it’s almost unnerving.
You can’t help but wonder how they see life; that somehow they experience a magical world beyond your vision.
Why do we feel that? It isn’t logical. If you couldn’t walk or feed yourself; if you were incontinent; if all you could do was roll over in bed; if you had no ability to speak or even think in rational verbal terms — wouldn’t you be considered disabled?
Why then are we so quietly envious of these little people? What magic do we sense in them? Does Buddha swim in the depths of those liquid eyes?
Perhaps there is a Buddha consciousness in these 6 month old, uninhibited, sometimes serene, often demanding, easily fascinated, bed-wetting bundles of joy. Why not?
Life is strange. Is it such a stretch that infants, despite all of their outward limitations, process abilities of perception we wish we had?

And since their limitations primarily set them apart from us, could it be that these limitations are their causative Buddha-factor?
The silent advantage of infants
Infants perceive their world in each moment, fully, deeply, and without bias. Us big people on the other hand, experience a verbal-thought-summation of what we see in the moment based on pre-established judgments. Adults perceive life through a template of fixed, albeit slowly changing, definitions. Infants have no template blocking their vision.
One of the reasons for this is that infants have no verbal language associated with their thought and perception.
Think for a moment about this vast mysterious world. Try to use all of your imagination to probe the depth and reach of its content. It’s impossible. And yet, we allow words to define our experience of it.
Can you imagine what it might be like to have no words entering your mind as you perceive and think about your world? How would that change your world-view?

Also, because everything is new to them, infants judge less. They haven’t yet acquired the experience to know what to accept and what to reject. How would it change your life if you could selectively suspend judgment to facilitate a more dynamic view of circumstance?
Science Daily recently featured the research of Lisa Scott, a psychologist at the University of Massachusetts at Amherst. The articles reported her findings on the perceptual development of infants. Of infants 6 months or under, Lisa says, “During this time the brain is sensitive and responsive to the surrounding environment.”
But after 6 months of age, Scott concludes, “what is most intriguing about these findings is that they collectively suggest that typical perceptual specialization and development is characterized by the gradual decline of abilities.”
Scott is suggesting that we loose our dynamic responsiveness to the world after 6 months of age, in preference for a selective focus on the essential elements of survival and satisfaction.

In the Association for Psychological Science, an article titled, New study shows that infants have mind-reading capability describes the work of Luca Surian, a psychologist at the University of Trento in Italy.
Luca’s research is primarily concerned with the ability to reason about the mind. According to the article in APS, his findings indicate that psychological reasoning skills enabling us to predict another’s behavior are in place in infants, independent of environmental or learned behavior. Surian explains that, “this is mind reading proper, however rudimentary.”Is it possible that infants have perceptual and intuitive abilities, and that we have lost some of those attributes? It appears so. Can we reclaim them?

SHILPA`S STORY

My roomies shilpa and shubhangi have become an integral part of my life!
Shilpa`s story
Shilpa is a very liberal girl in all ways and....she wants to marry for love...
she met this guy some 6 years back and fell in love....he promised her marriage...when he would be settled...she agreed to wait .......which now turned out to be 6 years .....this guy made all sort of excuses..mainly about making a decent amount of money before getting married to her....
last saturday saw shilpa all red eyed and sorrowful......this guy broke off the relationship...reason ...he doesnt have the guts to tell his parents about shilpa....
what a shame!what a waste of precious years! i didnt know how to console her( but in my heart i knew this was going to happen!)
i told her there are other fish in the sea......( dunno if i did right?????)

MUNICIPAL SCHOOLS.......

Municipal schools in Mumbai....Ive a lot to say about them....but will be brief...
yesterday I had been to one of them for some work......
the plight of the kids and teachers is pathetic.....
no safe drinking water, dirty smelly toilets...( i almost vomited)
teachers who dont knw their subjects....
teachers are mere clerks, they are expected to take admissions, do the paper work, file documents,and also manage 4 classes!
the rains have made the water room into a stagnant mess.....
the students are mostly first generation school goers....
i saw that many students were suffering from scabies...
during break time...the students sit in the corridors and eat their lunch...in their haste to eat, they spill their food and make a mess of the place...
WHO IS RESPONSIBLE?
WHY DONT WE GET ANGRY ANYMORE?
WHY DONT WE PROTEST?
HAVE BECOME SO INSENSITIVE?

being in love with life

The beauty of being in love with life is that it keeps u happy always...
as a human being i know its very dificult to be in one emotional state always...but i think happiness is an exception....
now there may be a question....if something sad happens like losing a loved one or illness or something equally devastating.......... then what?
i think that if u r happy inside and know that nothing really matters ....then you wont be so flabbergasted, shocked with the blows that life offers...
ive been depressed a number of times about failed relationships, Illness,, death...etc...
but i think ive managed to bounce back only because ive not taken LIFE so seriously....
i really dont have a 'must' or a' should' in my dictionary....evrything is grey..no black no white.....
earlier i used to try to explain my philosophy to my friends but now i know that, its not something to be explained but to actually live.....
life is truly beautiful......just dont take it too seriously...
take time to laugh at yourself
be with friends....
make time for yourself
cultivate atleast one activity that u enjoy doing...
maintain relatinships....
dont take people for granted
accept human frailities
i think thats it! :-)

mirabai!

A poem by Mirabai:

Unbreakable, O Lord, Is the love

That binds me to You

Like a diamond, It breaks the hammer that strikes it.

My heart goes into You

As the polish goes into the gold.

As the lotus lives in its water, I live in You.

Like the bird

That gazes all night

At the passing moon,

I have lost myself dwelling in You.

O my Beloved - Return.