another friendship day....!!!!! my frnds are with me

this year i had forgotten friendship day....( i really dont know how i forgot it)
but my friends did not let me forget..they forgave me for not rememering....
they came to get me ....
we went out for coffee...
they are sweet..............
here are some pics....

what exactly is love?

What is love???????.
this is/ has been a question that has been haunting me from the time Ive been born( i think!!!!!)
According to the Navaraasa i.e. the 9 core emotions present in man, love is the only one that has branches.
prem=love
mamta=affection ( maternal, paternal, brotherly)
bhakti= devotion( for god)
shringar=sexual( for ones mate)

Now my question is .... can we really branch and compartmentalise these feelings ?
when one is close to another human being,all these overlap and mingle and each emotion struggles to express it self.
when one is so close, that one trusts the other with ones own life, can we say that oh! yes, now im feeling sexual love, oh now im feeling so much affection.
its all together.
there is affection, adoration, attraction, devotion, sweetness, pain, trust, respect.....( all this becomes LOVE i think)
there is no boundary its just a beautiful feeling.its intermingling of feelings...its pure...its innocent..
its strong.... its open.... it wants to be fearless.

how important is sex in a relationship.

I was thinking about this...
....how important is sex in a relationship.....
I always thought that sex is secondary....its the feelings, the intimacy that's really important.....
without feelings and emotions, the intimacy, the final act of a man inside a woman becomes meaningless, it becomes disgusting......

I feel there is a lot of difference between sex and love making....

I hate it when someone calls the most important, beautiful ,intimate act between a man and woman as just sex.
Its love making.. its expression of deep need, love, concern and affection..
its the ultimate expression of a number of feelings...especially TRUST...... its more than love....its complete surrender to your partner.. you allow yourself the freedom to show your most vulnerable self, your true self.
its amazing!

There are commercial sex workers....for them sex is work....no emotion...no feeling.. only the act of physical release, for the man.
i dont know, but whn i think of the word sex, i think of that...a man satisfying his need for sex, with a woman who feels that it is a means of making some money....its not easy money as many people feel.
i think,its the most difficult money.....to sell your body as compensation to live on this earth.

love me tender... elvis presley...

Love me tender,
Love me sweet,
Never let me go.
You have made my life complete,
And I love you so.

Love me tender,
Love me true,
All my dreams fulfilled.
For my darlin I love you,
And I always will.

Love me tender,
Love me long,
Take me to your heart.
For its there that I belong,
And well never part.

Love me tender,
Love me dear,
Tell me you are mine.
Ill be yours through all the years,
Till the end of time.

This a very sweet song.... i like it very much...

emotions a plenty....

I was asked if I could promise not to fall in love
....I ask..can love be manipulated?can we choose to fall in/out of love ? doesn't it happen on its own?.
There are things that happen on its own...
who wants the deep hurt, pain and depression?
Im sure love slowly comes and engulfs you..
Ive suffered because of my perspective.....because everywhere I see love as a game...
love as a compromise, love as an adjustment.....
but still, I feel love is beautiful emotion..my dreams are true. I HAVE HOPE...Im sure it will happen to me and I will welcome it.
I will not be afraid....I will be brave....
the unconditional kind of love happens only to the most beautiful people on this earth ...
I feel those are the ones who are truly blessed....
Im blessed....
so I cant promise..I can only promise to be brave....brave to be true to my feelings...
all beautiful things will follow.... Im sure...bliss will come ......it will!

the beach..

We Mumbaikars take the BEACH for granted.... but i realised yesterday that there are people who have not seen the beach EVER....
i loved the look of amazement and wonder.........i loved it!!!!
that was the best idea..

some more

for four months i was quiet... that was a difficult and strange phase....i was so inside me...there was no need to communicate...now i feel this rush.... this rush of emotions...i feel anger, tired, worthless, rejection its all negative...
but there is a tiny wick of hope...
what should i do to help my self i wonder...
im trying hard..to understand...