The Challenge

The challenge….
I’ve learnt that, life is a challenge ….yeah!….
u have to love your self before u can love anyone else….your self esteem has to be in place before u think of helping someone else…and most of the things u do, HAVE to be for yourself!
When u help someone, why do u do it? Is it because u feel pity or is because u want to feel good about your self….
when u help someone u do feel good about yrself…. u r happy… u have so much to give…u feel prosperous….. I think that should be the only motivation……not to get anything material in return……of course, one should not force ones viewpoint…but one can definitely try to put it across clearly …leaving options open…..HELPING PEPLE TO MAKE THEIR OWN DECISIONS!
I’ve learnt many things the very hard way the most important being…to let go….to try and give up material pleasures. That doesn’t mean that I don’t enjoy luxuries…it’s just that because im so happy inside im able to enjoy all the luxuries I have ,,to the fullest…Im aware of my blessings….
Earlier ,I used to think if I have more loving people around me…. ill be happy ….if I’ve a bigger house ….ill be happy……if my health improves… ill be happy….never understanding ,that the time to be happy and enjoy life is now( enjoy- doesn’t translate into consuming/buying more things, but to appreciate life as it is)….…..I had so many questions….now I know that the most important thing is to just BE…..being alive itself is such a joy……
If u r in control of your anger then many problems can be dissolved….because of your anger u have to compromise so much…u have to compensate so much …u have to lose so much…u have to understand that people don’t really want to be mean to u…they just lack the competence to be nice…(they too r frustrated, and don’t know how to relax/react in overwhelming situations….the only thing they know is to get angry…..and anger is just the protest against the injustice that u feel has been meted out to u…. its not the solution….)…...and once they know u properly they will stop trying to manipulate u….they will put all the cards on the table( u have to give a chance to yourself to know people) …and also to learn the skill of discernment… and u will……. when u start understanding the bigger picture….
We feel we know so much…but the thing is we don’t know the true meaning of so many words.
To relax…..what does it mean---unwind, calm down, let go, settle down……relaxation can take place everywhere…..u see people relaxing in crowded trains…..I remember reading the essay of a person in the Nazi concentration camp….after he was rescued, he spoke about how he was free inside the prison….his mind was free……the body will only do what the mind tells it to do…..