inspiring movie--the bucket list.

When I saw the  Bucket List , I loved MORGAN  FREEMAN`S  character.
I like the 2 questions.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2fHdsI7H8EE
It inspires me to live a life of joy and peace. To be a good person and live life fully without any regrets.
As we live on , we are also dying..... everyday we are dying......there is an end to our life ..that is the truth.
Meanwhile, we need to live our best life!

RING OUT THE OLD, RING IN THE NEW- Tennyson

Ring out the old, ring in the new,
Ring, happy bells, across the snow;
The year is going, let him go;
Ring out the false, ring in the true.

Ring in the valiant man and free,
The larger heart, the kindlier hand;
Ring out the darkness of the land,
Ring in the Christ that is to be.

CRAZY SONG....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GT0V_vcd_ME&feature=related

Most  idiotic song ever on Bollywood !

Importance Of Close Relationships- A Study.

What benefits do people get from having a close, healthy relationship?


For starters, being in a romantic relationship provides many physical benefits – individuals in close relationships live longer and enjoy better health outcomes than people who lack such relationship.


This gain is undoubtedly due to the fact that people in close relationships have a built-in emotional and physical support system – someone to care for them and provide comfort in times of need. Not only do people in close relationships live longer, but they report being happier and more satisfied with life than individuals who fail to find a  loving companion

Second, having a romantic relationship provides many resource benefits. Sharing resources with another person is a great way to get ahead in life. Two people working together can live better than one. When you have someone close to share and trade resources with, you come out ahead.


Third, people in romantic relationships receive more social support; that is, having someone who is attentive to your needs and concerns. Having social support translates into many other beneficial outcomes. People who know that someone supports them make better decisions in life with less stress and anxiety.


Fourth, having a companion often makes life more enjoyable. Having someone with whom to share life’s little things, like walking the dog, watching TV, eating meals is important; it enriches the experience itself and people report having a higher overall quality of life when they have someone to share it with.


Fifth, relationships are useful because partners monitor each other’s potentially destructive behavior and make attempts to stop each other from doing things that may be harmful. For example, individuals in close relationships often try to get their romantic partners to quit smoking, drink less, curb their drug use and so on.


Finally, people in romantic relationships have sex more often than single people do. Having sex on a regular basis is important for one’s well-being.

All told, romantic relationships provide enormous benefits to people lucky enough to find someone to love and someone who loves them in return.

 courtesy...www.truthaboutdeception.com

styles of love...i am agape.. what are u??

http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/relationship-issues/love-styles.html

Beauty of a Woman...

A little boy asked his mother, " Why are you crying?"
"Because... I'm a woman", she told him. " I don't understand", he said.
His mum just hugged him and said, " And you never will"..

Later the little boy asked his father, " Why does mother seem to cry for no reason?" "
All women cry for no reason" was all his dad could say.

The little boy grew up and became a man, still wondering why women cry.

Finally he put in a call to God; when God got on the phone, the man said, " God, why women cry so easily?"

God said, "When I made women she had to be special. I made her shoulders strong enough to carry the weight of the world; yet, gentle enough to give comfort.

 I gave her an inner strength to endure childbirth and the rejection that many times come from the people she loves.

I gave her a hardness that allows her to keep going when everyone else gives up and take care of her family through sickness and fatigue without complaining.

 I gave her the sensitivity to love her partner / children under any and all circumstances, even when they have hurt  her very badly.

  I gave her strength to understand her partner  through his faults and fashioned her from his rib to protect his heart.

 I gave her wisdom to know that a good man never hurts his woman , but sometimes tests her strengths and her resolve to stand beside him unfalteringly.

And finally I gave her a tear to shed. This is hers exclusively to use whenever it is needed.

The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair.
The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides.

The reality and the illusion...

I love you  with my body and soul..
I love you for you  are you..
I see the inner you ,
I see your need to be free.
I understand.
But,
I have faith in my connection,
I have patience,
I have hope,
I know you are mine..
only mine..
I know, nobody can love you as I can.
Nobody can take my dreams from me...
I will live with you in my dreams.
Thank You for everything,
my love, my baby!

The importance of having a family

I realised the importance of having a family recently. 
Its true that family sometimes can be very intimidating esp. if you are like me. I am a non-conformist and love my  personal space.

But its also true that, sometimes when we are blinded  by love or ambition, its the members of our  family that give us the right perspective  as a third person.


It feels like shit to know that your family was right .... right from the beginning and that I was wrong. (The hurt is of course because of my BIG EGO its not easy to admit that I was wrong.)
But again  on the positive side it feels wonderful that I can count on my family to help me with the right perspective.

 Life is to live and learn and not make the same mistakes again.

Life is beautiful.....

Sound Of Music..

After many false starts I finally found the time to watch the Movie  THE  SOUND OF MUSIC,

it was  the 100th time I  was watching  (kidding).. every time I watch this movie , it makes me believe in the beauty of love.  The movie has memorable songs, I go into nostalgic mode as all the songs were taught to me as a child by my music teacher.

.http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wbQSAdU4Qb4&feature=related

October 2010 -October 2011

Sweet October,
you come with so much hope..
the autumn that turns into
lovely winter and then spring again...
life is such...
hope, is what makes life bearable...
and change is what is constant...
can love change its colours?
can love be constant?

NPD....

 I never never knew that NPD is a major  personality disorder and i am shocked that I that so many people are suffering from this .The worst part is that they dont know what to do and how to get help......
 
Song of the Male Narcissist

When I said that I would leave you
I meant "Don't let me go"
and instead of saying yes to you
I said - I'll let you know

I put myself above you
so you'd think me some great prize
and blamed my faults upon you
all because of my false pride

So I know you have good reason
for complaining like you do
because I never really thought of you
just 'to mine own ego' was I true 
But the truth is I'm embarrassed
for how badly I've behaved
and for being such a coward
I really am ashamed

Cause I don't want you to guess
how helpless that I feel
and that I don't know how to save you
even though my love is real

There is so much I have to learn
and if you're needing proof
just look at how I twist and turn
and struggle with the truth

I cannot be your hero
and I don't always understand
and really I just want you to see
the child within this man

I'm so scared that you will leave me
when you see my acts a sham
and that I gave up long ago
on being loved for who I am

I need a guiding hand in life
and need you to be strong
I need you to be virtuous
and let me tag along 


Set me goals I can accomplish
and praise me where you can
not for the act - just for the steps
I take to become a man

Cause I still have tantrums like a baby
and think I must get my way
and I don't know how to listen
and I haven't learned to pray

So love and please don't leave me
and help me learn to get along,
but stop crying and getting angry
cause it's really you who's strong

To make me feel bad won't change things
cause I'm already wracked with shame.
and sometimes you must say "no" for me
and kindly say my name

and if I'm being brutish
you must make me face the law
You must show concern with courage
if you want my heart to thaw

Cause I won't respect a victim
and you won't beat me at that game
and if you really want to tame me
you can't be scared of public shame

Cause it will take men with integrity
that I squarely have to face
you see I'm craving a strong father
and you'll never take his place

And I'm trying hard to trust you
which I don't know how to do
and I hope you can forgive me
and I hope that we're not through 


courtesy:http://www.narcissismdailymirror.com/2009/11/blog-post.html

past present and future..

Past ,Present and Future are all connected.....
What is time? Can one really define it?
Our life on this earth, is limited... but.. our energy lives on... the more we concentrate on little things, the more happy. we can be.......  it is the  opposite of what is taught to us...

We are told to ignore the little things and concentrate on the bigger scheme of things.... but are we really equipped to understand the bigger things that happen on this universe????
as we learn and live we realise how little we really are... how small and invisible our life is......this concept  is something that I understood  recently.....

The secret to living fully and blissfully is to understand that small kindness, play a very important role in our lives....hurting others, by words or deeds, will always boomerang.....

Love and  forgiveness will help us to live a stress free life..

 “hulu neger le bego new”,

New Beginning....

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Silence!

when there is music, there is silence...
when there is peace there is silence..
when you are right you are silent..
when you love unconditionally you are silent..
the opposite is also true..
when there are no words there is silence...
when there is no explanation there is silence....

when emotions go dry there is  silence..

when you are guilty there is  silence..

when you are selfish you are silent.

when you cheat you are silent

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LUXuNmwaXtY&feature=related

Decision

A choice made between alternative courses of action in a situation of uncertainty.= Decision.

Boasting..........

The line between healthy pride and excessive boastfulness may be very fine, and difficult to pinpoint. But one thing is for sure: we know when we have had enough of someone’s incessant bragging, and their inability (or unwillingness) to take subtle hints.

One of my friends who got married recently, has become a boaster. She keeps telling me stuff about how great her husband is.About the gifts he buys her,  his salary,  his  good looks and his powers in bed.

She has nothing else to say.I have been listening and listening .. but now it has  become difficult for me to endure her boasting.

Psychology tells me that boasting is usually done by people with low self esteem and those who have lost their identity and are insecure. They are, in fact trying to console themselves and are  validating themselves.They crave attention and are very sad inside! I want to help her, but I cant stand her boasting.....

This is what the LORD says: "Let not the wise man boast of his wisdom or the strong man boast of his strength or the rich man boast of his riches,

Signs that he`s not into you...

I finished reading this book in one working day.....2 hours in the morning and 2 hours in the evening.
Its a book for every woman, because its speaks directly to them, its a book that cares about women`s feelings and understands women... Amen!!!
Everyone lives in Hope......
But  its good to realise that some situations are hopeless....
its good to know that you are wasting time and energy....
here are some suggestions from  this book.....

Standard Suggestions


I will not go out with a man who hasn’t asked me out first.
I will not go out with a man who keeps me waiting by the phone.
I will not date a man who isn’t sure he wants to date me.
I will not date a man who makes me feel sexually undesirable.
I will not date a man who drinks or does drugs to an extent that makes me uncomfortable.
I will not be with a man who’s afraid to talk about our future.
I will not, under any circumstances, spend my precious time with a man who has already rejected me.
I will not date a man who is married.
I will not be with a man who is not clearly a good, kind, loving person.

Tizita

tizitash zeweter wode ene eye metah
I found this in a beautiful book CUTTING FOR STONE by Abraham Verghese.

I Finished reading this book in 12 hours

I got it as an ebook, or else I might have read  IT the whole night in bed!

A story about different cultures, emotions stories of human suffering.
A book about losing and finding true love, about betrayals, sex and torture.
A story about twins , Marion and Shiva.
A story about Doctors and Medicines of longing and nostalgia, about TIZITA.

job satisfaction....

What exactly is job satisfaction?
Everyone says we can  get job satisfaction  if  we  love what we do and if  our passion  becomes our profession,
but is it possible? for everyone?
Sometimes we know that, we are in a dead end job where there is no hope.
The leader is  unimaginative, and resistant  to change and expects everyone to be like him/her.
Why  do we continue in such a sad job? why do we wait to get a better job before we leave this one?
What exactly is security? Is there security in any job?

I used to love my job I still do, but the boss is horrible and I know I am unhappy here.. I know there is no scope of change since even the owners need puppets whom they can play with.
They have a mindless fool whom they can order around  and who in turn orders his subordinates around . Its a cycle.

I know in my heart that ,only if I quit this damn job will I be able to find space for something better. I have achieved everything  of value late in life. Life is teaching me patience.

Its true, slow and steady wins the race!

friendship week...

Who is a friend?

According to me, a friend is someone who loves you unconditionally , is non-judgemental AND KEEPS YOUR SECRETS SAFE....

A friend goes out of his way to help you and make you safe and happy...

A friend  understands your needs, your need to talk, connect and also your need for silence.


Friends dont change according to situations...

Friends dont leave you alone  when they know you are sad

Friends are not selfish....

Friends call for no reason, just to see if you are alright....

it  is said that we cant choose our relatives but we can certainly choose our friends.....

You know you have an amazing relationship when....

1. when you can speak the truth with out fear
2. when  the memory of the person brings a smile on your face.
3. when that person  , makes you  want to be a better human being with better self control.
4. when you can be sure of an honest opinion
5. when life seems simple and beautiful
6 when there is hope.
7. when there is no blame game, mind game or other manipulative games.
8. when you are yourself and there is no pressure to change
9. when you  feel free and  you want to be committed..
10. when there are no regrets and you know in your heart that you are with the right person and you never want to lose that  person from your life!

book to read

Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara- Directed by Zoya Akhtar

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KSsSM2IR2LY&feature=related ( Tomatina festival.. I love it!)


A  movie that  speaks about fighting our fears....
conquering our insecurities... and finding our life....
what exactly are we living for?
is money everything?
what will we do with all the money and achievement if we have no one special  to share it with?
are we existing like animals ( breathing,  eating, drinking, sleeping, fucking!)or are we living?
are we living our  best life?
what exactly are we searching for?
are we killing our today in hopes of a better tomorrow????

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=LkpoBIseGAc


I realised that there are 2 kind of selfish  and stingy people...


1. Who live like beggars and expect others to be live  like beggars too!
2. Who live like kings and don't like to do spend even a coin for anybody except themselves!

The weight of water - anita shreve...

Another beautiful book!
I finished it in 2 days flat!
This book also has been made into a movie...
I think I wont see the movie.....
I want the images in my head to be as it is!
The book explores emotions .. something that Anita Shreve is an expert at.
jealousy, tender love, joy, murder, sex.....
the high point of story  for me, is the way , the writer has made a beautiful collage of past and present events.....
the twist at the end is the most   unexpected ...

must read for all fans of Anita Shreve....

All HE EVER WANTED - ANITA SHREVE..

This is second book that I read by the same author.

The first one being The Last Time They Met....

This book asks a lots ethical questions .

1. Should there  be  secrets between couples?
2. What exactly is the meaning of space in a relationship?
3. Can one partner love more than the other?
4. What is the status of the person who loves less? or does not love at all?
5. Can a relationship work ie. make both the concerned people happy and content, if both are
     using each other?
6. Is a co-dependent relationship healthy?

 One of my favourite quotes.....

"Sometimes it seems to me that all of life is a struggle to contain the natural impulses of the body and spirit, and that what we call character represents only the degree to which we are successful in this endeavor." 
— Anita Shreve (All He Ever Wanted)

the surrender....

I have these eyes.... 
they are useless to me......
as  I cant see you ...

	Chitra Singh - TAMANAO KE BEHLAWE MAIN .mp3
	Found at bee mp3 search engine

the scent of a woman

Yesterday I watched this Movie again.....

My favourite quotes from the movie

1.
Who the hell do ya think you're talking to? I've been around, ya know? There was a time I could see. And I have seen. Boys like these, younger than these. Their arms torn out, their legs ripped off. But there is nothing like the sight of an amputated spirit. There's no prostetic for that. You think you're merely sending this splendid foot solder back home to Oregon with tail between his legs, but I say you are executing his SOUL! 




2.
Makers of men, Creators of leaders. Be careful what kind of leaders you're producing here. I don't know if Charlie's silence here today is right or wrong. I'm not a judge or jury, but I can tell you this: He won't sell anybody out to buy his future! And that, my friends, is called integrity. That's called courage. Now that's the stuff leaders should be made of. Now I have come to the crossroads in my life. I always knew what the right path was. Without exception, I knew. But I never took it. You know why? It was too damn hard. Now here's Charlie. He's come to the crossroads. He has chosen a path. It's the right path. It's a path made of principle that leads to character. Let him continue on his journey. You hold this boy's future in your hands, committee. It's a valuable future. Believe me. Don't destroy it. Protect it. Embrace it. It's gonna make you proud one day, I promise you!

your memories..

Wherever  I  may be..
you follow me in my heart....

Yes, there are a number of people, around me..
but how can I speak to them about my  deepest feelings..

Inside me there is a lonely place.. that nobody knows.....
only YOU know it....

your memories haunt me...
ONLY your thoughts, remain with me....
give me hope and I live on....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Coi6JdNQ2aY&feature=related

I see you as you are and I love you as you are....

I see you as a little human child........
innocent and sweet...
living in the remote  village...
with your brothers and sisters....
walking and running to school.....

I see you as a youngster, falling in love for the first time.....
writing love letters to your beloved....
laughing and having fun with your friends...

I see you as an ambitious young man,
struggling to get your share of recognition,
waiting for luck to shine on you
hoping for a beautiful life......

I see you ,as you are.....
I see your soul ,
I see your dreams,
I see your fear....

I see all your flaws,
You are not perfect.....
You can never be..
There is beauty in the imperfection, my baby!
You are a human being.......
And I love you...

You are losing me....

My love is like a tender plant....
It needs water and sunlight everyday...
It needs your expressions of love...
Your tender touch and sweet words...
It needs to be acknowledged and valued.....
I  have communicated to you many times,
that one single word, action or  glance,
from you is enough.....
You cant afford to  leave me in non-connection,
For hours and days and weeks....
I  will feel abandoned..
I will feel lost.....
I will feel unloved...
I  will slowly wither, fade and then die....
Not from this world...
But from your life....
Because I will find my own sunlight and water again...
I know I will...
I will survive YOU!

the essence...

What exactly is the essence of a human being?
whenever I   respond to a human being , I usually respond  to  the positive ,most beautiful , vibrations inside them  that I  feel, when I  am with them....
later as I  meet them often,  I  sift and sieve and decide whether I  need to be with that person or not....
many times I  feel drained and suffocated in the presence of some people.
what matters  most to me is the genuineness and readiness of that human being to be pure and honest with me....
what I  really really dislike and  what annoys me  is the the superficiality and the artificiality of actions and words that reduce a beautiful live relationship into  dying ashes.

The hope..

I finished  reading  the book MAN`S SEARCH FOR MEANING  by Vicktor Frankl.

As I finished reading the book , thoughts would not leave me.....

after all ,what is life if there is no hope?

Hope is what will make life easy. 

Hope is the only thing that can take you through the darkest hours,

Hope of a beautiful life ahead...

Hope of a love and life shared..

Hope of a simple but meaningful life......

But suffering too has an equal share..
there can be no real life without real suffering..
nothing comes easy ...
what comes easily goes easily too...

This book gives me the courage to dream and   work towards  a wonderful life someday!

my love for u..

My love for YOU is all compassing and complete....I know   you will understand it some day, before it is too late.....
I can climb mountains and fly the sky , to be with you...
I know I will destroy myself to be with you....
Though , I know you  will leave me...
I have nothing but tears and love.. is it worth anything? to you? my Love?
I,  like a bewitched soul will surrender to your charms everytime...
Is this craziness or Magic? 
is it the connection ?
the entwinement of souls that defy all the rules and norms made by man?
you know i want you forever..... but you ? will u ever?

to obama.....

"I mourn the loss of thousands of precious lives,
 but I will not rejoice in the death of one, not even an enemy. 
Returning hate for hate multiplies hate, adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars.
 Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that.
 Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that"
~ Martin Luther King, Jr.

Easter Musings....

It was xmas and now it is Easter....
life's cycle continues..
everyone welcomes the sunrise ...
the sunset is looked upon with awe.....
that's natures cycle..
what goes up comes down....
beyond the cape of storms there is a cape of good hope!

happy vishu!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=irBZabz7Mb4&feature=related

what you wish for others, happens to you.....! so remember what you wish!

taking love for granted...

How many times does one take another for granted in the name of love?
I believe love should be unconditional.... it helps you to be a better person....to excel...
when you  have love on your side, you soar to great heights...
you are free to explore, because you are sure you have a loyal person on your side who prays for you and wants the best for you....
I am  so happy , when I see the potential in a human being to become a compassionate, wonderful  human being.....
but selfishness takes over and priorities change and then, there is nothing to be done but weep in loss!

What a loss , a half developed human being, before he reached his potential he gave up and went back  to being a frightened, greedy,  selfish ,poor person... who  chose money over love....
who chose to just  exist  and not  to live happily with the one person who understood him completely ... he is doomed to a life of aloneness and sadness.

He is stingy and selfish, for the most deserving person and then later he discovers that he has lost everything to the least deserving one.....that is the most saddest part of his life...
he could be the Bestest... but he chose to be nothing!

Evanescent,,,,

Evanescent....i love this word.... it describes the beauty of life so well...like a rainbow, this life spreads beautifully in front of us and  just when you start to understand what its all about, it gone....
the earlier we, understand that nothing last forever, the better it would be for us.....
more happier and more content.....
everything is evanescent...... quickly vanishing...like vapor....

life goes on..

There is no noise,  when a heart breaks,
just  excruciating pain and silence....
A river of  tears, waiting to spill,
Afraid,of falling at an unfortunate moment.....
The hands and feet  continue to work,
as life has to go on as usual...
The brain is numb but is conditioned to work,
like a machine....
The ego does not allow me to show my pain.,
I  have to hide it,,
I have to smile...
I have to live
There is no other way......nothing...

my space

as i go back and forth inside my memories....

i realise that , 

i need to look after myself more..

i have to love myself and become selfish....and self centred..

enough is enough!

where do I go???

 2 ROADS...
WHERE DO I GO...?

being on a hook...

Im waiting,....
on a hook.. like a little worm..
drop me please...
and let me swim, away from you....
enough of  your  false hopes,
and contradictions.....
just let me go....
leave me alone and forget me...
I am useless now, to you,
I am spent...
look for another worm...to get you more fish.....

where has it all gone.

There is so much love and struggle
there is so much honesty and appreciation
but, where is the happiness  and the smile?
when will it all come back?
will it come back?
ever?
the only thing certain is death....
everything else is uncertain and subject to change....
EVERYTHING....
ALL....
NOTHING LASTS FOR EVER......

New Year Resolution...

 Love is kind, and patient...

This is what the Bible says..

I tried to do this...

I was  being kind , patient and appreciative of the people in my life...

I was doing what the Bible told me...

BUT.....

I realise  that the people to whom  I was being the embodiment of love did not deserve my love..

I was not being AUTHENTIC...

I was not being my real self....

My real self is a happy self, where there is reciprocation of feelings

I deserve the best..

. 

I CANT SETTLE FOR NOTHING BUT THE BEST!

If  I feel I am  being undervalued, unappreciated , 

and feel that  my needs are not respected and met....

I should ask myself  the following questions.

1. is this relationship working for me?

2 am I happy being kind patient and appreciative?

3. what am I appreciating?

4. can I take being not in connection ?

5.do I like an overdose of silence?

6 where is my self respect?
7. can i respect a person who doesn't respect me?