Monday, 3 September 2007

HIS..... STORY...

I met S, ten years ago.... when, both of us, had just started out ,as professionals, in the field of education....both of us were flowing with enthusiasm ...we needed to change the education system... do this... do that.... do everything.......


S is a great looking guy.. light, liquid eyes.... strong features....articulate......we fought , argued.., expressed our feelings......


S and me took a liking for each other...it was instant.....a direct connection...


we met every other week in the begining......we discussed work.....how to change attitudes... students,..parents..their attitude......


one day S told me he was getting married... arranged... by his parents....


i was happy for him.... asked him .... what he was feeling..... S was silent...then he said ..`i dont know`.....hmmmm .......that was MY reaction...!


when i met S after his marraige, he was glowing...said was very happy with his life.... wife ...teacher...( that was his only condition... wife should be in the field of education.)


wow! i thought...God! i thought.... LET IT LAST ......


S got transfered to a godforsaken place..but was in contact.....letters.....telephone...


i met S at a seminar....... he was in bliss..... he had a daughter.........


everything ok....lifes been good.......i was in bliss ... listening to him....


met him again after 2 years...... blessed with a son... in joy......wow! life couldnt get better..


exactly after......one year.. ..i got a call.....sad...hardly sounded like S...


ya... its me...S? what? ya.... u can talk to me.....


son diagnosed with autisim.....daughter diagnosed with astigmatism......is there a God?


spoke for a long time.....


S`s wife suffers from a genetic mental retardation...which the family has/HAD kept secret and which S too had kept secret, when he found out just after they got married....a person with the kind of retardation that she has, cannot connect emotionally with anybody not even with own kids.....the person is very laid back... passive......non assertive...interested in only sly survival.....


now what?


S was lost........but he loved his wife he said........coz nobody could...and nobody had ever tired to understand her...


met S after another year.....he looked like.....wow! slim and new hair cut and wow!


what happened?.... i was amazed at the transformation.....


S told me he had met someone....at last .....whom he wanted to spend his life with.....


wow! ok... now what?


im geting a divorce he said.....


what about yr wife I said `u love her? dont u?`...ya.... divorce yes..will not leave M(his wife)


how ......can it be possible? i had my doubts........yes its possible....coz he andT( his love) have discussed it at length and theres no way they r going to leave M with 2 kids to fend for herself......


Wow! can it be true.....can there be such unconditional love....can u take on society...yr colleagues.... yr kids...?yr parents?


yes he said`i love M shes innocent...shes a human being....nobody wants her..she needs me......`


`salutes to u `i said...


S called me yesterday told me he has a new baby boy.....


i went to meet his family.....


S, M, T, 3 kids.....each......differrently challenged........


i loved them all...am dazed.........speechless!

5 comments:

Michael James said...

So am I! :-D

Murmur of a Zombie said...

a different way of looking at it...

Have u condsidered something called as 'samjhauta' in this whole thing... S wouldnt leave M coz his concious wudnt permit. T wouldnt leave S coz she knows his needs and above all she knows hers... i respect all in this story... i admire wht they all did... but i dont see this as love... i see this is understanding/compromise and therefore samjhauta... n i prefer it this way...

roshni said...

ya.... i understand exactly what u r saying...but any other human being would not have done what S did, coz...her parents had cheated him..they kept her mental condition a secret...he doesnt have to feel guilty for that!!!!....like most arranged marriages only the good parts were projected the bad hidden.....so S is special...and T is special too!and his love is unconditional coz thers nothing he wants frm M...maybe only the satisfaction that she is ok....

~ a said...

wow! speechless indeed! what a transition, range of emotions, ups and downs, and most importantly to be able to understand and feel at peace with the understanding!

priya said...

Really speechless n heart touching!